Sunday, 3 April 2016

An interesting day invoving a garden set

Hello dear friends. I hope you are having a nice weekend.

Early this morning I received a phone call from my mum asking if I minded helping her pick up a garden set that an elderly friend of my mum and dads had offered them. I happily agreed and told her I would be with her in half an hour.

I drove to the end of my road only to find the main road towards my mums was closed and I spent the next hour following the diversion and finally arrived at my mums.

We quickly headed off to pick up the garden set, got back to my mums and whilst she made us a coffee I started to put the table together only to find we had left one of the legs behind.  So we had to return to pick it up, eventually we got the whole table and it is now looking lovely on my mums patio.

It made a nice change to do something to help her, as its normally the other way round.

The things that I achieved today were few:-

  • Cleaned the kitchen
  • Ironed Bens work clothes
  • Washed my daughters bedding
Yesterday, I finished my book.

So now I am off to watch Prison Break

Take care xx


  1. Is the picture from your mom's garden?! If so, it's so beautiful! I want my backyard to look like that! Sorry about all the driving you had to do, you must have been so annoyed to realize that you were missing a piece in the middle of putting it together! I'm sure your mom appreciated your help, though. How nice of you to be excited to be asked to help for a change. That's how I feel when Greg does accept my offers of help (which is rare) when he does a project because he always turns me down. So when he does accept, I feel like a little kid who's been told he can do a big kid's job, lol.

    Have a great week, Tara!

  2. I really don't mind driving, I think its because I walk so often so it makes a nice change. No, I didn't take my camera with me to my mums. Her garden is very pretty, she works in it a lot, but its smaller.

    It sounds like Greg quite capable, I think I'd sneak away quietly and let him get on with it. ha ha xx

    1. Well he is and since he always turns me down, I don't have a choice but to let him get on with it as you said. It's just that sometimes I like doing projects with him, you know? We tend to spend a lot of time in the same room but each of us doing our own thing and after a while it gets a little old.

    2. I completely understand. Ben and I tend to spend the evening in the lounge after 8.00 when the children are in bed and he is always on his computer and I am either on mine too or I am doing the ironing or reading so I do know where you are coming from. I often have to go out and pick up one of the two older ones from either work or cadets so I guess it breaks the evening up for me a bit.
      Does he know that you would like to help him? Xx

    3. So we're the same, eh? What a surprise! Oh yes, he knows I would like to help, but he does not want me to help. And he gets really grumpy about it too. It's not his best trait :)

    4. I think a lot of people are the same my dad sits in the lounge watching sport and my mum sits upstairs watching what she wants to watch. Ben and I are complete polar opposites. Does Greg ever offer to help you with the things you do? Xx

    5. The things I do like reading blogs and snacking? LOL. He always asks me if he can get me anything when he goes into the kitchen, which is several times a night, and he pours the water into everybody's cups before dinner. Sometimes he asks if there's anything he can do when I have a big thing going on and I almost always take him up on it, lol!

  3. If I could get in on this conversation too, I would like to add that having your husband ask for your help during a project isn't all it's cracked up to be. For instance, when my son's girlfriend moved in, instead of asking for a man's help, my hubby thought there would be no trouble if I were to help carry that stuff up the stairs. I used to, but I am older now. Also with the renovations.....we have worked together so long that he would rather work with me than anyone else. I don't know why because we usually end up squabbling about how something should be done. It also means taking me away from what I am doing to help out. He expects me to help with cutting gyproc, taping the seams, drilling, and electrical work. I feel like one of the guys. *laugh* So what kind of project do you want to help out with?

    1. Yeah, I'm not looking at building a house, lol. But I guess what really bothers me is how dismissive and rude he is when I offer to help. It makes me feel worthless and after 15 years of it, it's not getting any better although now when I ask I'm just going through the motions and not expecting him to actually accept. It's really hurtful, especially when I see him handling things by himself and obviously it'd be easier if there were 2 people. But in 15 years he's accepted my help only a handful of times. It is to be noted, though, that several times I stepped in to give him information that he needed and wasn't aware of (like where to find the Windows License when he was looking at reinstalling Windows on our son's PC and he was getting aggravated that he didn't have it) so that really annoys me. I'd rather work alone too but if someone offers to help, most of the time I'll accept gratefully. His attitude is the worst part. He's wonderful in many other ways but not with that :)

    2. It always hurts when you feel unappreciated. I can imagine that it would really hurt your feelings if you have spent fifteen years trying to help only to get turned down constantly. In our house I do most things and can still be running around at nine or ten o clock at night but I still don't get an offer of help. But now its at the point where I will carry a new bed upstairs on my own rather than ask for help or take apart bunk beds even though I'm cursing as I'm doing it because its so heavy. In a way its made me a bit of a control freak. Perhaps that's why Greg doesn't accept your help because he likes to be fully in control of whatever he is doing. Xx